{"id":684,"date":"2021-08-25T07:23:36","date_gmt":"2021-08-25T05:23:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/clankypromuze.cz\/?p=684"},"modified":"2021-08-25T07:23:37","modified_gmt":"2021-08-25T05:23:37","slug":"samota-se-buduje-osamelost-zabiji","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/clankypromuze.cz\/?p=684","title":{"rendered":"Samota se buduje, osam\u011blost zab\u00edj\u00ed"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

J\u00edt do lesa na proch\u00e1zku, do posilovny k \u017eelezu, k oknu p\u0159i v\u00fdchodu nebo z\u00e1padu slunce, \u010di jen do pr\u00e1zdn\u00e9 pokoje, dok\u00e1\u017ee p\u0159in\u00e9st pot\u0159ebn\u00e9 vy\u010di\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed pros\u00e1kl\u00e9 mysli ka\u017edodenn\u00edmi starostmi. Kdy\u017e jdu do samoty, vychutn\u00e1v\u00e1m si \u010das tichosti, \u010das uvoln\u011bn\u00ed, kter\u00fd p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed paradoxn\u011b iv hlasit\u00e9m a nam\u00e1hav\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed. V samot\u011b nach\u00e1z\u00edm mnoho: klid, uvoln\u011bn\u00ed, inspiraci, pochopen\u00ed, radost, a zejm\u00e9na o samot\u011b v p\u0159\u00edrod\u011b i \u00factu, pokoru a \u00fa\u017eas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V samot\u011b jsem ud\u011blal sv\u00e9 zat\u00edm nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00ed rozhodnut\u00ed, v samot\u011b jsem kul a st\u00e1le kujeme sv\u016fj charakter, v samot\u011b jsem hledal a st\u00e1le hled\u00e1m sv\u00e9 posl\u00e1n\u00ed, sv\u016fj sm\u011br. Samota je l\u00e9\u010div\u00e1, samota buduje. No na to, aby takovou z\u016fstala, pot\u0159ebujeme sk\u00e1lu, oporu, m\u00edsto, kam se
ze samoty vr\u00e1t\u00edme. A je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edce pot\u0159ebujeme alespo\u0148 jednoho par\u0165\u00e1ka, kter\u00fd n\u00e1m pom\u016f\u017ee vyj\u00e1d\u0159it a pochopit, co jsme v samot\u011b na\u0161li. Samota, to je dvouse\u010dn\u00fd me\u010d, kter\u00fd dok\u00e1\u017ee budovat v\u011bci nov\u00e9 a dobr\u00e9, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 pokud ned\u00e1me dostate\u010dn\u00fd v\u00fdznam na\u0161\u00ed sk\u00e1le a spole\u010dn\u00edkovi, snadno se um\u00ed prom\u011bnit na destruktivn\u00ed osam\u011blost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Co tedy t\u011bmito dv\u011bma v\u011bcmi mysl\u00edm?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00edsto, kam se vr\u00e1t\u00ed\u0161
Jeden kamar\u00e1d se se mnou pod\u011blil o zku\u0161enost p\u0159ed jeho odchodu na vysokou \u0161kolu v Lond\u00fdn\u011b. P\u0159ed odjezdem b\u00fdval v Bukure\u0161ti nad bytem, \u200b\u200bkde \u017eila jeho babi\u010dka. B\u011bhem toho, jak tam b\u00fdval, se t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 nesetk\u00e1vali a celkov\u011b nem\u011bly siln\u00fd vztah. Kdy\u017e se v\u0161ak lou\u010dili, babi\u010dka siln\u011b plakala. Zeptal se j\u00ed, pro\u010d tak velmi pl\u00e1\u010de, v\u017edy\u0165 se p\u0159ece t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 v\u016fbec nesetk\u00e1vali. Babi\u010dka mu \u0159ekla, \u017ee i kdy\u017e se \u010dasto nesetk\u00e1vali, pro ni bylo vz\u00e1cn\u00e9, \u017ee v\u011bd\u011bla, \u017ee je tam nad n\u00ed, u\u017e jen kdy\u017e sly\u0161ela bouchnut\u00ed dve\u0159\u00ed. V\u011bd\u011bla, \u017ee je tam a to jej\u00ed d\u00e1valo klid. Kdyby cokoli byla pot\u0159ebovala, sta\u010dilo by p\u00e1r minut a byl by p\u0159i n\u00ed. Jej\u00ed sk\u00e1la odch\u00e1z\u00ed, proto plakala.
Krom\u011b ne dokonal\u00e9 rodinn\u00e9 situace m\u00e9ho kamar\u00e1da, slova jeho babi\u010dky ilustruj\u00ed, jak se samota dok\u00e1\u017ee p\u0159etavit do osam\u011blosti.
I kdy\u017e babi\u010dka m\u00e9ho kamar\u00e1da \u017eila \u010dasto v samot\u011b, osam\u011bl\u00e1 se nec\u00edtila, proto\u017ee jej\u00ed vnuk byl na bl\u00edzku. I to sta\u010dilo. No kdy\u017e j\u00ed vnuk, jej\u00ed sk\u00e1la, odch\u00e1zel, poc\u00edtila n\u00e1hlou \u00fazkost osam\u011blosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Osam\u011blost je svin\u011b. Podle v\u00fdzkum\u016f je pro lidi stejn\u011b \u0161patn\u00e1 jako kou\u0159it 15 cigaret denn\u011b. Ka\u017ed\u00fd jsme vystaven jej\u00ed riziku, ale podlehnout nemus\u00edme.
Na to, aby se samota nepretavila do \u017eivot ni\u010div\u00e9 osam\u011blosti, pot\u0159ebujeme oporu, o kterou se um\u00edme op\u0159\u00edt v dob\u011b nouze i klidu. Bude n\u00e1m oporou, i kdy\u017e ji nebudeme vid\u011bt. Oporou, kter\u00e1 n\u00e1m kryje z\u00e1da. Je to jakoby takov\u00e1 psychologick\u00e1 pojistka, pomoc v dob\u011b nouze a spole\u010dnost v dob\u011b klidu.
J\u00edt do samoty a naj\u00edt tam n\u011bco dobr\u00e9ho je v\u00fdrazn\u011b leh\u010d\u00ed, kdy\u017e m\u00e1m z\u00e1zem\u00ed, do kter\u00e9ho se m\u016f\u017eu vr\u00e1tit. T\u00edmto z\u00e1zem\u00edm m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt rodina, p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9, volno\u010dasov\u00e9 komunity, \u0161kola, pr\u00e1ce. B\u00fdt s\u00e1m pak nen\u00ed tak n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9, nebo\u0165 tuto oporu si neseme v\u017edy s sebou v mysli. Je n\u00e1m brn\u011bn\u00edm p\u0159ed n\u00e1strahami samoty. T\u00edmto brn\u011bn\u00edm um\u00edme b\u00fdt i my, a jak Peter rozeb\u00edral v p\u0159edposledn\u00edm podcastu, jak mu\u017ei v\u00edme darovat klid skrze na\u0161i oporu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Osoba, jej\u00ed\u017e \u0159ekne\u0161<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Je\u0161t\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e je m\u00edt takov\u00e9 z\u00e1zem\u00ed, je m\u00edt n\u011bkoho, s k\u00fdm m\u016f\u017eu svou zku\u0161enost samoty, ticha \u017eivota, sd\u00edlet. Jak Josef Fousek, \u010desk\u00fd spisovatel a b\u00e1sn\u00edk, \u0159\u00edk\u00e1: „Samota je kr\u00e1sn\u00e1, ale mus\u00ed\u0161 m\u00edt n\u011bkoho, komu o n\u00ed promluv\u00ed\u0161.“ Pot\u0159ebuje\u0161 alespo\u0148 jednoho spole\u010dn\u00edka na cest\u00e1ch, u kter\u00e9ho najde\u0161 pochopen\u00ed. V dne\u0161n\u00ed dob\u011b se mnoho lid\u00ed c\u00edt\u00ed osam\u011ble. \u010casto to nen\u00ed t\u00edm, \u017ee by kolem sebe nikoho nem\u011bli, \u010dlov\u011bk m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt obklopen davem lid\u00ed a p\u0159esto se c\u00edtit osam\u011ble. Fyzick\u00e1 bl\u00edzkost lid\u00ed nen\u00ed to, co chyb\u00ed, chyb\u00ed zde bl\u00edzkost du\u0161evn\u00ed. Mnoz\u00ed lid\u00e9 maj\u00ed probl\u00e9m naj\u00edt skute\u010dn\u00e9, hlubok\u00e9 vztahy, kter\u00e9 umo\u017e\u0148uj\u00ed vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 pochopen\u00ed. No jsou to pr\u00e1v\u011b tyto vztahy, kter\u00e9 ode\u017eenou osam\u011blost a daj\u00ed prostor l\u00e9\u010div\u00e9 kreativit\u011b samoty. Samota ti p\u0159inese mnoh\u00e9 zji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed o sob\u011b, o sv\u011bt\u011b, o tv\u00e9m m\u00edst\u011b v n\u011bm, ale pot\u0159ebuje\u0161 n\u011bkoho, kdo ti pom\u016f\u017ee tato zji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed d\u00e1t do pevn\u00e9 formy, kdo dok\u00e1\u017ee pochopit, co se sna\u017e\u00ed\u0161 vyj\u00e1d\u0159it a um\u00ed nab\u00eddnout sv\u016fj pohled, nejen poslechnout. Bez t\u00e9to osoby nebo osob, je pohyb v d\u017eungli samoty nebezpe\u010dn\u00fd. Jej\u00ed n\u00e1strahy t\u011b v\u011bd\u00ed zab\u00edt. P\u0159irozen\u00fd stav lid\u00ed je \u017e\u00edt v komunit\u011b. V\u011bt\u0161ina na\u0161ich p\u0159edk\u016f \u017eila v mal\u00fdch komunit\u00e1ch, v kmenech, kter\u00e9 snadno nab\u00edzeli spole\u010dnou zku\u0161enost, a tedy i vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 pochopen\u00ed. No mu\u017ei se \u010dasto izoluj\u00ed, \u010di z vlastn\u00ed iniciativy, lhostejnosti, povinnost\u00ed nebo lenosti. Nen\u00ed ale dob\u0159e z\u016fstat s\u00e1m. Osam\u011blost t\u011b \u010dasem zabije. Dob\u011bhne t\u011b.
Pot\u0159ebuje\u0161 svou tlupu. N\u011bkdy sta\u010d\u00ed alespo\u0148 jeden dal\u0161\u00ed osam\u011bl\u00fd vlk, se kter\u00fdm m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 sd\u00edlet, co najde\u0161 v samot\u011b, aby se neprom\u011bnila na osam\u011blost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zda v davu lid\u00ed nebo v hou\u0161t\u00ed lesa, pokud nem\u00e1\u0161 svou sk\u00e1lu, svou oporu a pokud nem\u00e1\u0161 spole\u010dn\u00edka na cest\u00e1ch, s k\u00fdm sd\u00edl\u00ed\u0161 svou zku\u0161enost, osam\u011blost se t\u011b bude nad\u00e1le pevn\u011b dr\u017eet a vys\u00e1vat z tebe \u017eivot.
Pokud svou tlupu je\u0161t\u011b nem\u00e1\u0161, najdi ji nebo vytvo\u0159 a pod\u011bkuj t\u011bm, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou pro tebe ka\u017edodenn\u00ed sk\u00e1lou.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

J\u00edt do lesa na proch\u00e1zku, do posilovny k \u017eelezu, k oknu p\u0159i v\u00fdchodu nebo z\u00e1padu slunce, \u010di jen do pr\u00e1zdn\u00e9 pokoje, dok\u00e1\u017ee p\u0159in\u00e9st pot\u0159ebn\u00e9 vy\u010di\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed pros\u00e1kl\u00e9 mysli ka\u017edodenn\u00edmi starostmi. Kdy\u017e jdu do samoty, vychutn\u00e1v\u00e1m si \u010das tichosti, \u010das uvoln\u011bn\u00ed, kter\u00fd p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed paradoxn\u011b iv hlasit\u00e9m a nam\u00e1hav\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed. V samot\u011b nach\u00e1z\u00edm mnoho: klid, uvoln\u011bn\u00ed, inspiraci, pochopen\u00ed, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":687,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_sitemap_exclude":false,"_sitemap_priority":"","_sitemap_frequency":"","tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-684","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-rady-a-navody"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t